Every fortnight in Aaron's Advice in the Outspoken Section of OutUK he answers your questions on being gay, sex and relationships and any other stuff you might want to ask.

OutUK: So what first made you become an escort?

Aaron: I began after I graduated from college. I found myself totally unemployable. After 100+ rejection letters I started sleeping around in a fit of depression. Someone said I was good at sex and suggested I gave escorting a try. So I did!

OutUK: When was that?

Aaron: That was in June of 1995. (Ugh, I think my age is showing).

OutUK: Was it what you expected?

Aaron: I wasn't sure what I expected. I half-thought my first client would murder me and hide my body. I was excited and sexually-aroused though. The idea of being paid for sex turned me on immensely. Fortunately my first encounter went well.

OutUK: What's the best and worst about it?

Aaron: Well, the money was an obvious bright spot. I liked the fact that someone complimented me for my looks, too. I wasn't very used to people saying I was good looking. I thought the sex was great, too. I really got into that. : )

As far as the worst thing ... Well, it saddens me that some people can't be trusted. I've had clients that were physically unattractive, but that doesn't bother me. What gets me really upset is people who try to cheat me, lie to me, take advantage, or otherwise be unnecessarily rude.

OutUK: You normally charge over £250 an hour ($350) which is more than a lot of escorts in London why is that?

Aaron: Because I have intrigued them. I'm cute, but not gorgeous. Young, but not 18 any longer. I have a decent body, but am not particularly muscular. I do have a brain though, as well as an extremely professional attitude towards my work. Most escorts' websites have a few pictures and some brief contact information. Mine is much larger and expansive to the point where a potential client could spend hours exploring my site. By the time someone calls me for an appointment they already know who I am.

You can contact Aaron via his website:  www.aaronlawrence.com

OutUK: What makes you a good escort do you think?

Aaron: When it comes to being a good escort, only two things matter: Customer satisfaction and Personal satisfaction. Meeting the needs of the client is the primary goal of an escort. But if the escort feels bad about what he is doing, he is going to be a failure as an escort no matter what clients think. In my particular case, I very much enjoy meeting the needs of my clients.

Escorting has never been about making a quick buck. I enjoy getting to know my clients, learning what drives them sexually, emotionally, and psychologically, and then meeting their needs in those areas as best I can. During my five years in the business I have learned how to do all this while balancing it with my own needs.

OutUK: What's your favourite sex, and why?

Aaron: Late in his life, porn star and sex activist Scott O'Hara quipped that as he grew older he realized he enjoyed the idea of sex more than the real thing. I think I'm the same way. The idea of being gang-banged in a leather sling by a group of hot daddies appeals to me, but it's not a priority.

OutUK: Is there anything (legal and safe) you don't like to do, and why?

Aaron: Working as a porn producer and escort, I am well-used to cutting the legal line a bit thin. Safety-wise though, I am much more conservative. I have been known to bareback (I do have a lover of many years, after all), but don't do so with strangers. Fortunately, my safety conservatism often fits into being legally safe as well. For example, I have never touched an illegal drug in my life. I am very liberal politically and careerwise, but tend to play it safe in the day-to-day operation of my life.

OutUK: How many times in total do you think you have fucked a guy, or been fucked by a guy?

Aaron: You do ask the tough questions, don't you? To be honest, I have no idea. I'd estimate I have had 1000 sexual partners. Maybe half of those have fucked me or been fucked by me? No idea. Maybe a third. Hard to say, really.

OutUK: What was the best, and why?

Aaron: David Eddings wrote something to the effect of "a fat man's favorite meal is his next one." The same can be applied to promiscuity and sex. Sex really is like food in other respects, too. Sex can have many different "flavours" including intense fucking, relaxed lovemaking, nervous pickups, depressed flings, and the like. I have a lot of favourite experiences in each category, but no one encounter is superior to the others.

OutUK: Do you prefer to Top or Bottom, and why?

Aaron: Historically I have been more of a bottom, but in the past two years my clients have been having me play top more and more. As a result I am a little more out of practice as a bottom, and it is somewhat less comfortable to be fucked. I still like it, but it takes me a while to get into it. As such, these days I prefer to top, but am happy to go either way according to the desires of my partners.

OutUK: You've written two books, as well as your regular sex advice column. Would you like to do more writing?

Aaron: Yes. I am slowly working on a third book, and have great ambitious of a fourth one which will be superior to all other three put together (or so I hope!). I enjoy writing but regret that I have not had as much time to write this year as I would like. Such is the price of expanding my professional porn career.

OutUK: What made you want to go into Video Production?

Aaron: It seemed like a logical extension to my business. I was selling (renting, really) my body and making good money. Porn is a great way for career escorts to increase demand for their services, which in turn means more money. I also had plans to enter porn from more of an entrepreneurial approach. Not a lot of people in the industry do so, but the rewards for doing so are great.

You can find out more about Aaron's videos via his website:  www.aaronlawrence.com

OutUK: Where have you filmed apart from London?

Aaron: I have made videos in New Jersey where I live, in Amsterdam, Prague and Moscow. Whilst I'm here in London I have been filming most of the scenes on the premises of a local escort agency. Their bedrooms are far superior to the "budget-style" hotel rooms I usually use.

OutUK: Where are the hottest guys in the world do you think?

Aaron: I'm not sure yet. Based on the places I have been, I'd definitely say that Moscow in Russia has the best guys. They're hot, they're horny, they're thin, they're toned, and they don't have the annoying club/bar mentality found in Western culture. I can't wait to go back and visit/film there again.

OutUK: What's so special about them?

Aaron: Well just look at these pictures or see some of the other 20 Russian boys (Russian, Ukranian, Belarusian, and Siberian to be exact) that I filmed on my website for more proof.

OutUK: What are you plans after the London Trip?

Aaron: Videowise, I will be in Thailand for two weeks in late November. I'll be filming lots more hotties there. After that I plan to take a break from filming - mostly so I can edit all the footage from London and Thailand. I'd like to film a "spring break" video in Florida in early spring, and perhaps visit Russia again in June. Those plans are up in the air though. The determining factor is how well my videos from Amsterdam, Russia, London, and Thailand sell. If they sell well, then I'll be able to continue my filming trips. If I lose money on them, obviously I will no longer be able to travel abroad to film.

Escortwise, I plan to continue escorting throughout 2002. My work has slowed down some this year because I have been pushing the video business, so I'd like to increase that a bit in 2002. Gotta love that cash income, y'know.

Writingwise, I'd like to finish up my third book and get to work on my fourth. I am very excited about the idea, but won't let myself write it until I finish up a few projects currently on my plate.

Personally, I will continue to workout (as I fight those "fat genes" that run in my family). I'll continue my relationship with my lover, of course, and I plan on adopting a second cat next year. I'm searching shelters for a three-legged cat to add to our family. We already have one, and there's something appealing to me about the idea of having two cats with six legs between them. : )

You can contact Aaron via his website:  www.aaronlawrence.com or ask him a question on being gay, sex and relationships via his regular column Aaron's Advice found in the Outspoken Section of OutUK.