This Week - Headaches, Taking a pounding and Cocksucking

Philip has a headache: Hi James. I have taken Viagra a couple of times, when I have wanted to top a guy, rather than bottom for him. It works fine, but I always find that I end up with a headache ... from the pill not from the sex! Is that unusual? Is there anything I can do apart from stop taking it?

James says: Hi Philip, yes headaches are one of the side effects from viagra. The reason for this is that the drug opens up arteries in the brain's lining and this can cause excess pressure in that area which can result in you having a headache.

Other common side effects from Viagra include a change in vision and the perception of colours, flushing (redness of the skin and a sensation of warmth on the skin), nasal congestion and dyspepsia, which is when you find it hard to digest food after eating, making you feel more full than usual.

These side effects are quite common and pass once the drug wears off, which depending on the dose is usually within 3-4 hours. If you get headaches when taking viagra then the best thing to do is make sure that you drink plenty of water after taking it, to keep yourself from dehydrating, which is also a major cause of headaches.

Take too much Viagra and you might feel breathless, have chest pains, or black out. You might also get an erection that won't go down. This can be painful and cause long-term damage to penile tissue.

You should always be very careful when taking viagra. Don't take it unless it's really necessary and most important of all under no circumstances should you ever use viagra and poppers together. These drugs can have a fatal effect on blood pressure and heart rate. Several people have died from taking this combination together.

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Jonathan is sore: James, I need some attention. I met this guy last night who was hung huge, and back at his place he pounded me relentlessly. It was great and I just loved it. I want to go back for more because I have never had a guy go at it like that before. I am a little sore now, and was wondering how I can reduce the pain a little now it is all over. I don't think he has done me any long term damage.

James replies: Hi Jonathan, being a litle sore after being fucked by a big dick is quite common and this would normally pass within a day or two. To make it less painful make sure that you are drinking a lot of water and having a healthy diet to keep your stools soft. It's when you go to the toilet that you'll most likely feel the pain most.

You can also think about the sex itself. Try using some different techniques to relax the anal muscles. If they are totally relaxed it shouldn't hurt much at all. Making use of a not too large dildo before you move on to real cock should also help.

Some people use poppers to relax although this is not always advisable, and certainly not if you have taken Viagra. Other people use an anesthetic spray which actually numbs the sensation in your ass and relaxes the muscles, but these can mask pain too much and not let you know when you are damaging yourself.

Much the best answer are the lubes. There are lots of new products available and the silicon based ones are particularly good for male sex. The best advice is to take it slow at first, sliding in and out gently. Only really go for it when you are totally relaxed. The bigger the cock the longer it takes to relax, and remember it's often the girth or width of the cock which is more of an issue rather than just its length.

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g asks a simple question: Hi James, how do I get better at sucking dick. I'm just starting out, and really need to learn. Can you describe what to do?

James answers: Hi, well I guess a lot of guys would say you just put it in your mouth and suck but it really isn't that simple.

You need to work on his cock making it harder by kissing it, licking it and sucking it. Also don't just try and put it all in your mouth first time out, as kissing and licking down the shaft is the best way to start. Don't forget to go to the balls too, this for a lot of men is a real turn on. Make sure you keep your teeth out of the way, very few men like having their cock bitten, even accidentally.

When you become more used to oral sex you can then try deep throating where you take all his cock in your mouth. This is OK if your partner is not too big but when taking huge cocks it can be a bit more tricky. I have written several articles on deep throating all of which are available in the Ask James Archive.

Next time someone is sucking you make a conscious effort to notice what feels really good and then copy that yourself when you go to suck the guy you are with. The great thing about sex between men is that they have the same sensations and if you are able to notice which areas of the body are highly erotic and sensitive for you then the sex can become very highly charged.

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