This Week - Aromas, Using a buttplug and Douching

Dave doesn't sniff at asking: James, How Do you use aromas safly and what do thay do?

James says: Hi Dave, aromas are another name for poppers and a lot of people use them for sex. They are called aromas, or room odourisers, to make them legal to sell. Quite why on earth someone would want their room smelling of poppers though, God only knows!

To use them you take off the top and sniff them through your nose. Be careful not to spill them, or get any liquid on the end of your nose, as they can burn and also they really stink! Also be careful not to sniff too much as they are quite strong.

Many people don't like them but if you do give them a try start with a tiny bit and see what you think. Poppers give you an immediate rush and they can also relax your muscles, including those such as your sphincter, so some guys find poppers useful when being fucked.

They are quite dangerous if used repeatedly, and if you have a heart condition they are an absolute no-no. A lot of people suffer headaches after using them, and they can be fatal if used in conjuction with viagra, or any drug which improves sexual performance, or the strength of an erection. Be very careful with them, or steer clear completely.

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Chris has lots of butts in his question: James, I know this is a stupid question but I'm going to ask nevertheless. I know what a butt plug is, but what exactly is it's function? Is it to keep the anus loose at all times in the event that a top presents itself? Besides being shorter, how is it different than a dildo? How long does one leave it in? Does leaving it in too long cause a problem? What's a good size butt plug to use?

James replies: A butt plug is very similar to a dildo although they are usually shorter, can be fatter, and have a base. They are used in a similar way to a dildo however the main difference is that they are designed so that they can be left in for a short period of time, whereas it is hard or even dangerous to do that with most dildos.

Using a butt plug is very pleasurable and you can do many things while using a butt plug including wanking, kissing and fucking. A butt plug will loosen the anus and can make it easier for a bottom to be fucked but they are also pleasurable in their own right. Some people even like to go around with them in, so for example they might go shopping with a butt plug or be riding a bike with one!

Of course using a butt plug will cause some anal stretching but if the plug is not too large and is not left in too long then this is not usually a problem. Don't be tempted to start out with a large plug and leave it in for hours, it could be quite dangerous.

Also it is good to do the kegel exercises that we have talked about in this column before if you use a butt plug or like to be bottom. The combination of the two can give you great control over your sphincter and your body cavity.

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Clean Gene asks: I've been an out bottom for longer than I care to reveal and am always concerned about cleanliness. I've heard a lot about douching before anal sex, so I've bought one of those long anal shower heads. What I didn't get with it was any instructions, so just how do I use it?

James answers: Hi Gene, well you connect the end of the hose to the tap by removing the normal shower attachment and replacing it with your douche.

You need to start the water using only tepid water - you don't want it too hot nor too cold. The water shouldn't flow too quickly either. Then you insert the plastic top into your ass let the water fill inside you and then remove the tube. Then as you normally would do with any douche, hold the water inside you for a while and then expel. Then you repeat as many times as necessary.

You should be careful not to douche too often as it can affect the natural chemical balance of the anus.

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